MEN AND WOMEN

Gender Roles  
Although sex discrimination in daily activities is unknown in Balinese society, men's and women's tasks and roles are clearly defined and quite separate. There's a certain hardiness in Balinese women and a softness in Balinese men that seems to reflect an ease with their sexuality and gender role. Men and women both play male and female roles in Balinese dance. Both sexes wear sarong skirts. Though once the exclusive preserves of men, women are now becoming more involved in painting, sculpture, and woodcarving. There's an acclaimed woman's gamelan orchestra in Peliatan and a women's art gallery in Ubud.
     Women often have independent incomes and are in charge of raising pigs and cultivating the fields. They also prepare for all the milestones in family life considered important or magical: birth, the first cutting of nails and hair, filing of teeth, the piercing of earlobes, marriage, and death.
     Women prepare temple offerings and are responsible for the main work of festivals. They perform much of the backbreaking labor in the building industry.
     Walking upright and graceful as queens, Balinese women can carry 30 kilogram loads that stand up to 1.5 meters tall on their heads, while men take up the rear cradling their parang. A young Balinese girl can train herself to carry 40 coconuts, stacks of fruit, or great water jars on her head-all this while riding a bicycle down a bumpy country road.
     Men make most of the family and village decisions. Men also look after the fields and do all the chopping and food preparation at festivals. While women care for most of the animals, the handling of cocks and cockfights is the exclusive domain of men. The market is almost solely a woman's environment, a place of abundant female energy and initiative where females derive most of their earnings. Buying and selling cattle is the province of men.
     The Balinese are extraordinarily welcoming, inviting visitors to take part in village life. They expect guests to adhere to their rules and customs. If you live in a village, you learn how to live communally. You know you're accepted when the villagers don't hesitate to ask for favors.

Menstrual Blood
As in many traditional Indonesian societies, strict taboos used to govern menstruation. Women could not prepare food, enter a temple or kitchen, make offerings, or attend feasts. In aristocratic families menstruating women were even sent out of the home to board in a special house or compound.
     A Balinese man believed if menstrual blood ever touched his scalp he would become impotent for the rest of his life and follow his wife around like a dog. If a woman's menstrual blood fell into the hands of an enemy it could be used as a powerful weapon by practitioners of black magic. Today such practices and beliefs are on the wane.

Dress and Grooming
Most older Balinese women wear a kain or sarung and kebaya wrapped artfully around their slim bodies. Men wear bright sarung as well. Among the young girls, jeans and T-shirt are the latter day sarung or kebaya. Ceremonial dress is elaborate and employs a number of precious textiles: hip cloths (kamben) extending from waist to ankle, ribbon-like belts (sabuk), and tightly bound chest cloths (anteng). Shoulder cloths (selendang) are only worn in the Old Balinese villages of Tenganan and Trunyan.
     The custom of appearing topless was discouraged when Europeans began arriving in numbers in the 1930s. Formerly, women were always naked to the waist in public-only prostitutes wore blouses. In the 1950s, with Indonesia's new found revolutionary fervor, tourists were forbidden to snap photos of bare breasts, cameras and film were confiscated, the women themselves fined. Today Balinese women wear bras like Western women wear bikini tops.
     Women have long, silky, black hair which they tie in a number of ways around the head, without use of hairpins, or interweave with scarves. Unmarried women often sport a loose lock of hair hanging down the back over one shoulder with a gonjer (flower) dangling in it. Hair can also be rolled inside itself in a great puff, held in place by a few separated strands.
     Many Balinese women had their ears pierced when they were children. Women delouse each other and their children as a social pastime and an affirmation of familial love.
   Occasionally, you see children with the traditional clipped short hair but for a single lock hanging down in front; the Balinese believe the child will become ill if this lock is cut.